Why Men Cheat on Their Wives?
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i think all should read that book on why men dont listen and woman cant read maps, it is said man has the seed to propogate so he is been given the mentality to search for woman and ego is injected within 6 weeks otherwise they turn out to be effeminate, so none can blame and like how my late husband used to say men go to woman right so whats the point of pointing at men only. if there are men who love spice of life woman too, so it is each one their own how to maintain the union to be sacred and control themselves, and lead a life for one woman and family and so on...sunkan
the other way around is also pretty common, though only in modern metros. what i personally feel is given the chance women can cheat on their partners much better with a far lesser chance of being caught. but dropping that thing lets get to the point. cheating is the result of a dysfunctional marriage when either of the partners is unhappy with the other. proper counselling & a meaningful talk between the two partners can help overxome this crisis.
as regards serial cheaterz they cannot be dealt with & must be castrated!
as regards serial cheaterz they cannot be dealt with & must be castrated!
is all
"That men cheat on their wives is no longer news."
Duh! How about women cheating on their husbands? Would that be shocking news? Something to think abouit......
"It could be that he was influenced by someone who cheated actively while he was growing up. This could be his dad, someone he lived, or someone whom he looked up to or admired as a role model."
Not really! Don't believe that pseudo-psychology. Men cheat because they are unable to honor their commitment due to whatever reasons: lack of conscience; lack of self-discipline...etc. They allow their neanderthal instincts guide them. I believe the men's brains are 'wired' to polygamous. At some point in the human history, the man decided to set certain socialogical boundaries for the good of the society. Thus, the institution of marriage was created. It provides legal, social and economic stability for both men and women. However, conforming to the standards set orth by our ancestors is a constant struggle. Even though many of us (men & women) fail to conform to the standards, marriage does keeps the society stable & strong, and keeps out chaos, which could result from free-for-all type of behavior.
Duh! How about women cheating on their husbands? Would that be shocking news? Something to think abouit......
"It could be that he was influenced by someone who cheated actively while he was growing up. This could be his dad, someone he lived, or someone whom he looked up to or admired as a role model."
Not really! Don't believe that pseudo-psychology. Men cheat because they are unable to honor their commitment due to whatever reasons: lack of conscience; lack of self-discipline...etc. They allow their neanderthal instincts guide them. I believe the men's brains are 'wired' to polygamous. At some point in the human history, the man decided to set certain socialogical boundaries for the good of the society. Thus, the institution of marriage was created. It provides legal, social and economic stability for both men and women. However, conforming to the standards set orth by our ancestors is a constant struggle. Even though many of us (men & women) fail to conform to the standards, marriage does keeps the society stable & strong, and keeps out chaos, which could result from free-for-all type of behavior.
Cheating of any type is carried out by somebody because of inherent nature and/or compulsion of circumstances. All the explanations are parts and/or projections of this premise..........and we all know this.
raghu,
so tell us ... why do guys want to be married then ?
why don't a lot of them stay single .....keep on changing partners and satisfying themselves sexually to their heart's content ?
i'll tell you .
1. because they need a wife to reproduce legitimately .....leave their mark in this world with a boy or a girl ...ahem ...boy preferably ...
2. they need a wife ...sort of like a housekeeper to keep their bed and hearth warm ..to feed their bellies .
3. they need to look respectable on the outside ..even if they are screwing their brains out on the inside ..
sort of like have their cake and eat it too !!
yeah
so tell us ... why do guys want to be married then ?
why don't a lot of them stay single .....keep on changing partners and satisfying themselves sexually to their heart's content ?
i'll tell you .
1. because they need a wife to reproduce legitimately .....leave their mark in this world with a boy or a girl ...ahem ...boy preferably ...
2. they need a wife ...sort of like a housekeeper to keep their bed and hearth warm ..to feed their bellies .
3. they need to look respectable on the outside ..even if they are screwing their brains out on the inside ..
sort of like have their cake and eat it too !!
yeah
@ raghu ,
broadly and nicely put ..
yeah in one sweeping statement ..you shut us all up !
nice going
jaijui
broadly and nicely put ..
yeah in one sweeping statement ..you shut us all up !
nice going
jaijui
Dear jaijui,
Regards.
I don't know from your replies [2] what your position is with regard to my statement. In the first, you seemed to approve my statement with a jovial remark [ 'you shut us all up.'] I think it is rather better to assume that your second reply is closer to your mind.
I did not feel like elaborating at the out set. I only gave the gist.
Most of the women at present continue to bear the outcomes of a negative socio-historical background.......Aadivasees and Dalits also bear such burden. This socio-historic injustice is not the product of the work or thought of the men living at present. But any right thinking man with humanitarian mind will realise the injustice borne by women as a gender.
Women who realise the necessity of liberating themselves from the burden of the injustice [ ofcourse they are a minoriy among women themselves] will not hate men or simply shower on them gender abuse. They will work together to liberate themselves from the male and female chauvanists who are the unwanted precipitates of past history.
It is anti-natural and anti-progress to perpetuate gender inequality. It had a socio-historical practical aspect in the pre-industrial revolution society. Women had a long period [ like child delivery] of lesser strength when protection by concerned, will ensure the safety of the offspring.and the future generation. This situation was over stretched by patriarcs, taking clue from the Gothra chief turned King/kingdom.
All that is/has to be thrown into the waste's-basket, utilised at best as compost. Men and women should try to understand one another as with in the same gender, with equality of material opportunities. A common good level of affection/love.should be the bond.
Hating is easy and self destructive. I am not preaching. I am telling with all sincerity at my command, a practical truth and not a loafty moralistic priciple.[ that is capable of producing mostly noise polution or paper wasteor electronic exuberance]
I fear I have over reacted, sounding a "holier than thou" air. Believe me I don't see things in such a light
I know you will understand my attitude.
Thank you for making me think more specifically.
now youve confused me
but i'll survive .
you have already survived all your life being confused. His reply won't make any difference 
hi blade,
aah the bad penny turns up again ..
kill it burn it lose it it still pops up :P :P :)
hey hows you /
put up a new discussion soon .
before i go to bed
MEn cheat on their wives because they are biologically made to cheat.EVen if the body is not cheating , the mind would have.
Think of the gods! OF muruga, Krishna...and other mythological guys like ARjuna,Bheema, yayati etc..... AFter the wars, this was their preoccupation. ...to bait gals.
So when gods have gien their sanction, by their own example, what do men do, but follow.
Hoenstly, some guysa re really good, like RAm.
Juss metntioning him before enyone else does,lol!
scribbly
Think of the gods! OF muruga, Krishna...and other mythological guys like ARjuna,Bheema, yayati etc..... AFter the wars, this was their preoccupation. ...to bait gals.
So when gods have gien their sanction, by their own example, what do men do, but follow.
Hoenstly, some guysa re really good, like RAm.
Juss metntioning him before enyone else does,lol!
scribbly
It's not a biological need. There are lots of men who are monogamous.
It's about self-esteem. All of our rel'ships in life are based on our self-esteem -- you stay with people who make you feel good about yourself or give you something you're missing. Sometimes you're stuck with people who do not make you feel good (could be spouse, inlaws, sibling)
So, when people go outside of their circle of commitment, it's to seek something they're not finding within it. Someone who listens, makes them feel important, makes them feel young/old, etc.
When Halle Berry's ex was cheating on her, it proved that it's not about how attractive your partner is, but the dynamics of the rel'ship.
It's about self-esteem. All of our rel'ships in life are based on our self-esteem -- you stay with people who make you feel good about yourself or give you something you're missing. Sometimes you're stuck with people who do not make you feel good (could be spouse, inlaws, sibling)
So, when people go outside of their circle of commitment, it's to seek something they're not finding within it. Someone who listens, makes them feel important, makes them feel young/old, etc.
When Halle Berry's ex was cheating on her, it proved that it's not about how attractive your partner is, but the dynamics of the rel'ship.
Currer, I find that when i walk on the road, all the riders who have pretty ladies sitting in the pillion are still gazing at a raodside chick as if the eyes could come out. But women dont seem to be gazing at anyone in particular. EXpalinWHY...WHY...WHY.... u people wanna fuck 24 hors a day...that's the thing. 70 men trying to rape two women who were with their hubbies in Mumbai,on new year....Dont try to act good yaar, admit things , You chappies are goner...condoms were invented for ur benefit. Remember thaaaaat!
scribbly
scribbly
Scribbling Pad
First my apology if I cross the language barrier.
I guess you quite rightly justify your nick.. scribbling pad... Looks like you scribble whatever comes your way - with no regard to whether it makes sense or not.
Lemme make an effort ..
... for the all the "riders with a pretty lady (not Ladies - only one sit at a time) sitting in the pillion and gazing at a roadside chick" - there is a chick who will feel so low and offended if no one admired her looks or dress up. Now whether this is an expression of the man wanting to take it beyond that is purely your opinion and I won't stop your imagination from where it does.
"But women don't seem to be gazing at anyone in particular" - is an utter insult to the women here because that seems to suggest that women gaze at everyone and anyone .. even animals, bulls, dogs and the like ..
When you say you people wanna f^&*% 24 hours a day (and according to you that's the thing) I am not even amused. Did you know that 90% men do not seek the other woman for sex but an emotional support and this is not unique to either gender.
As far the 70 men trying to rape two women who were with their hubbies in Mumbai, on new year....is what was reported .. the facts are yet to come out. But even when they do, 70 men do not form even an infinitesimally small fraction of the male population in Mumbai. And if that doesn't satisfy you .. do read some anonymous blogs and you will know the most common female fantasy is to be raped.
And lastly this one takes the Gold .... you say condoms were invented for men's benefit - you could not be farther from truth because its the woman NOT the man that gets into trouble if condoms were not used .. and any woman would tell you that..
First my apology if I cross the language barrier.
I guess you quite rightly justify your nick.. scribbling pad... Looks like you scribble whatever comes your way - with no regard to whether it makes sense or not.
Lemme make an effort ..
... for the all the "riders with a pretty lady (not Ladies - only one sit at a time) sitting in the pillion and gazing at a roadside chick" - there is a chick who will feel so low and offended if no one admired her looks or dress up. Now whether this is an expression of the man wanting to take it beyond that is purely your opinion and I won't stop your imagination from where it does.
"But women don't seem to be gazing at anyone in particular" - is an utter insult to the women here because that seems to suggest that women gaze at everyone and anyone .. even animals, bulls, dogs and the like ..
When you say you people wanna f^&*% 24 hours a day (and according to you that's the thing) I am not even amused. Did you know that 90% men do not seek the other woman for sex but an emotional support and this is not unique to either gender.
As far the 70 men trying to rape two women who were with their hubbies in Mumbai, on new year....is what was reported .. the facts are yet to come out. But even when they do, 70 men do not form even an infinitesimally small fraction of the male population in Mumbai. And if that doesn't satisfy you .. do read some anonymous blogs and you will know the most common female fantasy is to be raped.
And lastly this one takes the Gold .... you say condoms were invented for men's benefit - you could not be farther from truth because its the woman NOT the man that gets into trouble if condoms were not used .. and any woman would tell you that..
Above are my thoughts - not opinions
RedB
That's the catch. I left a bait and u fell right tttttt into it,,,,,haa.ha...thanks ,dear Redbul. Men have been impregnating women accidentally for ages and no condom was invented. they just suffered silently(REmember Sacrlet Letter). But the moment AIDS came to exorcise u guys outta bed...there u go advertising condoms and spinning it out of machines by the roadsides. That is why i said, condoms were invented for ur benefit. Keep AIDS in mind while u talkkk
ok, first of all..i'm not a chap..a chick.
secondly, the whole Mumbai incident is sick and I don't understand that at all.
thirdly, people will look. everybody looks ..they look at men and women. Doesn't mean that everyone wants to f*k all the time. you can't blend ogling with cheating.
secondly, the whole Mumbai incident is sick and I don't understand that at all.
thirdly, people will look. everybody looks ..they look at men and women. Doesn't mean that everyone wants to f*k all the time. you can't blend ogling with cheating.
you tell' em scribbly damn right ..
and viagara too ...
and viagara too ...
wearing a condom with viagra
is like riding a barrel on the niagra
is like riding a barrel on the niagra
how ? cause you won't fit in the barrel ?
or the ride is swift and death defying ??
or the ride is swift and death defying ??
because there is no real protection
when the overwhelming flow is demanding attention :)
when the overwhelming flow is demanding attention :)
Heyy shaken,
My Dear lifetime pal
Don't make my heart get broken
Suport my end against these pagans
U know all men are beasts except u
come to my side, take the cue
My Dear lifetime pal
Don't make my heart get broken
Suport my end against these pagans
U know all men are beasts except u
come to my side, take the cue
Dearest scribbly
The battle is done
this thread overrun
tackling every issue
including that little tissue
which separates the virginal
from those who indulge in sins- carnal
The battle of the sexes
has resulted in a lot of Ex's
and cannot be solved in this forum
Unless we have a Billion+ in Quorum
All I can say is X is X
And Y is Y
And some of us are XX
And the rest XY
So Why ask Why ?
Sit back and Enjoy :)
The battle is done
this thread overrun
tackling every issue
including that little tissue
which separates the virginal
from those who indulge in sins- carnal
The battle of the sexes
has resulted in a lot of Ex's
and cannot be solved in this forum
Unless we have a Billion+ in Quorum
All I can say is X is X
And Y is Y
And some of us are XX
And the rest XY
So Why ask Why ?
Sit back and Enjoy :)
>> It's about self-esteem. All of our rel'ships in life are based on our self-esteem -- you stay with people who make you feel good about yourself or give you something you're missing. Sometimes you're stuck with people who do not make you feel good (could be spouse, inlaws, sibling)
So, when people go outside of their circle of commitment, it's to seek something they're not finding within it. Someone who listens, makes them feel important, makes them feel young/old, etc.
You are right on the mark. In my own crude words when you don't get everything you want in your loyal favorite shop you end up looking for it in other stores (I told you it was crude). Very few people are willing to forego and sacrifice those missing somethings - when they are available elsewhere.
So, when people go outside of their circle of commitment, it's to seek something they're not finding within it. Someone who listens, makes them feel important, makes them feel young/old, etc.
You are right on the mark. In my own crude words when you don't get everything you want in your loyal favorite shop you end up looking for it in other stores (I told you it was crude). Very few people are willing to forego and sacrifice those missing somethings - when they are available elsewhere.
"So, when people go outside of their circle of commitment, it's to seek something they're not finding within it. Someone who listens, makes them feel important, makes them feel young/old, etc. "
________
Not always true!
*Some just people like variety- no amount of listening, making them feel important..blah, blah will make any difference! People just like to say..."he/she lacks self-esteem"...that somehow sounds plausible.
Enna Mr. U...are you back?! Enna orey half-saree shopping?!
Pongal vazthukhkal!
M
________
Not always true!
*Some just people like variety- no amount of listening, making them feel important..blah, blah will make any difference! People just like to say..."he/she lacks self-esteem"...that somehow sounds plausible.
Enna Mr. U...are you back?! Enna orey half-saree shopping?!
Pongal vazthukhkal!
M
Pongal NuLL Vazhthukkal...to you too.. Our MK and MKS have declared that Pongal is a secular festival for people of all religions - thus justifying his participation.
My half-saree "enquiries" were part of society analysis. All I did was travel and meet relatives, friends, and talk to everyone from bus drivers and shopkeepers to gatekeepers and air stewardesses whenever I got a chance.
My half-saree "enquiries" were part of society analysis. All I did was travel and meet relatives, friends, and talk to everyone from bus drivers and shopkeepers to gatekeepers and air stewardesses whenever I got a chance.
Why Women Cheat
By Laura Snyder
You guys make it sound like you have to cheat. And you love to blame your wandering ways to genetics. Well, sit down, buddy, because according to most research, women are closing the gender gap when it comes to fooling around. Some polls even claim upwards of 60 percent of women cheat on a mate.Why would she do such a thing? Well, it's not her genes...
You Stopped Paying Attention
Of course she wanted to be your sex kitten when you were still plying her with compliments, planning romantic dinners, and surprising her with smooth sex moves. But now that you think you don't need to buy her dinner to get her in bed, she's wondering if she can't do a little better than you.
You Changed...Or Your Relationship Did
You got meaner. Or messier. Or suddenly decided that getting your lazy butt off the couch long enough to grab another beer from the fridge was suitable exercise for the day. While it's good to feel comfortable in your relationship, it doesn't give you permission to let yourself go. Unless you want to let her go.
You Cheated On Her
You got busted banging some other babe and now your gal wants to get even. Sadly, some chicks see your infidelity as a "get out of jail free" card that lets her indulge her own cheatin' heart without the consequences. There's a simple prevention method here: Don't cheat. And if you do, you'd better be unwaveringly reassuring in your feelings of remorse and reform. And maybe buy her something expensive and sparkly.
The Grass is Greener
Just like she'll cheat on her diet to taste that eclair, she might be tempted to treat herself to that tasty new guy in her office just because he's there and looking delicious. Maybe she's bored. Or maybe he's really the man of her dreams. (Hey, we said we'd tell you why women cheat; we didn't say you'd like all the reasons).
She's Just Evil
Some babes are just always looking out for the better deal. She could get off on the illicit thrill of flirting with the forbidden; she could just like toying with nice boys like you. Either way, your solutions are clear. Dump the dame or resign yourself to frequent screenings for STDs.