Love is by chance or by choice
started by Vikas The Guru 8 mnths agoReplies
Then, one day, while driving to work, I had an epiphany. I found the answer to this troubling, irritating question. Let me share:
LOVE is LIFE!!
Yes. Think about it.
Lake of sorrow
Ocean of tears
Valley of death
End of life
end of life...thats what it is...for losers.
.....u r the greatest loser 'coz u say u love your husband and now say pure love never exists,either u r confused or u r commercial and materialistic.Atleast loving your daughter is a pure form of love or isn't it? And end of life for love is not losing,being a loving mother,u must be able to validate the feeling.Hey don't sting,queen of bees just tell urself in your own favourite words-man re tu kahe na dheer dhare and just don't immediately rush to attack all the views that don't suit you,you can discuss,talk,argue but not degrade ,you know better sulekha etiquette being here for more than 4 years.....JUST CHILL.
Of course, it is by both.
*What kind of "Guru" are you anyway? How can you be a Guru without knowing much about "it"?! If there is one thing all kinds of Gurus know (or profess to know)...it is about all kinds of love:-)
You need to become an expert on love real fast, or change your screen name real fast!
M
Short with time, so couldn’t reply to your post specifically, I am just pasting one of my post from my old blog www.youlistenme.blogspot.com
"Love is when you stop saying nonsense things and can simply be silent."Kaitlin Rogers
OH, here we go.
A Philosphical discussion "What is LOVE"
I had a feeling we were going to get into this one day....
Let's hear what some great experienced sage on this matter, his name I cannot recall,
once said of love:
"Love is an irrational emotional state caused by a hormonal imbalance which allows one person to take advantage of another."
There is always some madness in Love. But there is always some reason in madness.
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE."
I thought about this, I discused about this.How true is this statement?
well, depends, i think, on the definition of chance. do we really fall in love by chance? if we define chance as something that comes out of nowhere and catches you when you least expect it, maybe yes, falling in love is by chance. but the hopeful and yet the hopeless romantic inside of me tells me that maybe falling in love doesn't have to be by chance and well, choosing to fall out of love may only be a sad ending to another fairy-tale love story...
because maybe after all, love is an experience you don't gauge whether it's hot or cold but something you keep in your heart no matter what...
I didn't realy know the trees could be so tall.
I didn't know the sky could be so blue.
I didn't know it felt so good to fall (fly)......
I didn't know then, but here and now I do.
The paradox of falling in love and keeping alive...is that it is "so simple"...yet it becomes so complex..(and we make it complicated)..
Albert Einstein once said..
"There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."..
In my view...it applies to many aspects/events in life...and Love is the greatest miracle of all...the "meeting part" (that special someone among billions of others- be it spontaneous or arranged by someone else..)...and keeping it "alive and vibrant" is a choice (takes committment and effort!)
Speaking of meeting part..another perspective..
let me put some of my tghoughts on it:
Someone said
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE."
So how true is this statement?
well, depends, i think, on the definition of chance. do we really fall in love by chance? if we define chance as something that comes out of nowhere and catches you when you least expect it, maybe yes, falling in love is by chance. but the hopeful and yet the hopeless romantic inside of me tells me that maybe falling in love doesn't have to be by chance and well, choosing to fall out of love may only be a sad ending to another fairy-tale love story...
Love happens purely by chance. It cannot happen by choice. If people look for a person of their choice, love cannot happen.
One friend of mine decided to marry only a girl with a boy cut, in western clothes and he imagined about many other such features and dresses of an urban and western influenced girls. One of his friends tried to help him and invited him to a party where such girls are expected in large number. He went enthusiastically. In the party he had a love at first sight with a girl in saree, long hair with flowers in her hair. She was a traditional Indian girl. He and that girl have now been happily married for years. It happened just by chance and not by choice.
Enjoy the feeling, whilst it lasts...for some it lasts longer than others.. for those who analyse it, chances are that the shelf life is much lower