When wife gets REALLY annoying...
started by peacegazer 6 mnths agoFlat
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there's nothing wrong with leather belt treatment, now and then.
seriously, you got two options to cure a woman of nagging - give her a good orgasm, she might be hard up for it and that frustation might be manifesting itself as nagging. either that or she's naturally an insecure nag...in which case, throwing her outta the window is the only way.
Anytime my wife gets on my nerves, I just throw money at the problem. Works everytime. I tell my wife to get out of the house for a while and go shopping. And that's all she needs to hear. And she's gone!
manoj eagle posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths agoWhen wife gets really annoying. Many replies, too much interest.
What if husband gets really annoying, what would you do, question is for ladies.
well........gents are welcome.
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
What if husband gets really annoying, what would you do, question is for ladies.
well........gents are welcome.
husbands can get annoying in so many ways. Do you mean annoying becoz of nagging?
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths agomen can never be annoying. We haven't mastered that art yet 
ya. ask the same question for 54 more weeks. Then you will master the art of annoying
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths agowhat question?
ok. sending a typical woman's response your way (see I am learning so much from CH):
If you don't already know what I mean, than I am not telling you.
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
If you don't already know what I mean, than I am not telling you.
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
Examples...please... then we can analyze...
when women claim that men annoy them it means men are not saying YES to everything they say and saying things that they dont like... in our view...
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
when women claim that men annoy them it means men are not saying YES to everything they say and saying things that they dont like... in our view...
What is it? Some women bashing day today?
BladeRunner posted Re:When wife gets REALLY annoying...(what if we reverse the question) on 6 mnths ago
A wiseman once told me a story.
Socrates was working on his theories to enlighten the world. His wife was nagging away and kept on nagging away. Socrates took smart man's advise and went into his den(what ever it was at that time). After a long time of nagging and rising tempo of nagging wife got irritated that Socrates has not yet responded. She finally got a pot of water and broke it on Socrates's head drenching him and his precious writing that world would embrace for hundreds of years to come.
Finally Socrates look at his wife and cooly says, "is that all the rain after all that thunder and lightening".
So don't worry about fairness. Life is life. It gets better as tiem goes along.
If you fighting about non veg and Beer, you are still in family heaven. She is still deeply in love with you to care about you and your familys future. If you can keep the fights about one or two glasses of beer(assuming you are not a full blown drunkard, that would be a totally different discussion) for another 10 years, you have acheived what 90% of reasonable men fail to do.
(a) Never ever hit her. Try to get into street clothes if the fight gets hot. If you cannot control yourself, talk a walk. Nothing good will ever come after physical confrontation. It changes the chemical nature of the relationship and in many cases relationships may not ever come back to normal. Once you cross that threshold, it is a slippery slope.
(b) Never use abusive words and bring in sensitive issues to win an argument. You may make her stop for a while by hurting her but boy you will repay for a long time. Sometimes words hurt much more than physical confrontation. So find a way to remember those taboo areas when you are angry. If you really want to be smart, find ways to keep your breathing under control to keep your mind from getting into those dangerous sensitive areas.
(c) There will always be fights. During the fight, neither side will get the point across. Fighting is the stage setter for following discussions, compromises and your ultimate surrender. If you can listen to what she was saying, and agree to discuss when tempers cool down and give a reasonable gap of time. Think of areas you want to give up. Remember this is going to go on for years. So surrender in installments. If you give up everything in stage 1 , what will you have to offer next time.
First time - two bottles of Beer at a time to One bottle
Second time - One bottle of beer only on Friday, Saturday and sunday
Third time - Give up Saturday Botlle
If there is a fourth time and you are still married, be happy to give up drinking
(d) Make sure both of you have financial tranparency. If you get in trouble in that area, it can get really messy. Another issue is in laws. This is a no win situation and differs from family to family and too many variables and too many people to suffer. Do the best you can.
(e) Most of the above advice( c and d) is useless. Only thing that keeps the marriage together is your love towards each other. So when you are not fighting make every effort to make her happy, that good will come in handy when chips are down. Marriage is also a learning process. Every now and then sit down individually and together and take notes and make mental notes of lessons learned.
(f) Other than that, married life is fun and happy.
Socrates was working on his theories to enlighten the world. His wife was nagging away and kept on nagging away. Socrates took smart man's advise and went into his den(what ever it was at that time). After a long time of nagging and rising tempo of nagging wife got irritated that Socrates has not yet responded. She finally got a pot of water and broke it on Socrates's head drenching him and his precious writing that world would embrace for hundreds of years to come.
Finally Socrates look at his wife and cooly says, "is that all the rain after all that thunder and lightening".
So don't worry about fairness. Life is life. It gets better as tiem goes along.
If you fighting about non veg and Beer, you are still in family heaven. She is still deeply in love with you to care about you and your familys future. If you can keep the fights about one or two glasses of beer(assuming you are not a full blown drunkard, that would be a totally different discussion) for another 10 years, you have acheived what 90% of reasonable men fail to do.
(a) Never ever hit her. Try to get into street clothes if the fight gets hot. If you cannot control yourself, talk a walk. Nothing good will ever come after physical confrontation. It changes the chemical nature of the relationship and in many cases relationships may not ever come back to normal. Once you cross that threshold, it is a slippery slope.
(b) Never use abusive words and bring in sensitive issues to win an argument. You may make her stop for a while by hurting her but boy you will repay for a long time. Sometimes words hurt much more than physical confrontation. So find a way to remember those taboo areas when you are angry. If you really want to be smart, find ways to keep your breathing under control to keep your mind from getting into those dangerous sensitive areas.
(c) There will always be fights. During the fight, neither side will get the point across. Fighting is the stage setter for following discussions, compromises and your ultimate surrender. If you can listen to what she was saying, and agree to discuss when tempers cool down and give a reasonable gap of time. Think of areas you want to give up. Remember this is going to go on for years. So surrender in installments. If you give up everything in stage 1 , what will you have to offer next time.
First time - two bottles of Beer at a time to One bottle
Second time - One bottle of beer only on Friday, Saturday and sunday
Third time - Give up Saturday Botlle
If there is a fourth time and you are still married, be happy to give up drinking
(d) Make sure both of you have financial tranparency. If you get in trouble in that area, it can get really messy. Another issue is in laws. This is a no win situation and differs from family to family and too many variables and too many people to suffer. Do the best you can.
(e) Most of the above advice( c and d) is useless. Only thing that keeps the marriage together is your love towards each other. So when you are not fighting make every effort to make her happy, that good will come in handy when chips are down. Marriage is also a learning process. Every now and then sit down individually and together and take notes and make mental notes of lessons learned.
(f) Other than that, married life is fun and happy.
TBT
This sounds reasonable i guess IF there is no other way but to give up what I enjoy. My whole funda was that there is really no harm in what I do (not an alcoholic, not a wife beater etc. etc.) These are pretty simple things that I dont need someone telling me how/what/when I can do them.
I do not restrict her in any way. Then why should she?
Anyways, ab gussa kum hua. But I still dont feel like I should change. I give up what I like...yeh kiya baat hui?
Thanks everyone for trying to put things in perspective.
Bottom line is that there is no escape from this.
This sounds reasonable i guess IF there is no other way but to give up what I enjoy. My whole funda was that there is really no harm in what I do (not an alcoholic, not a wife beater etc. etc.) These are pretty simple things that I dont need someone telling me how/what/when I can do them.
I do not restrict her in any way. Then why should she?
Anyways, ab gussa kum hua. But I still dont feel like I should change. I give up what I like...yeh kiya baat hui?
Thanks everyone for trying to put things in perspective.
Bottom line is that there is no escape from this.
To temporary avoid the issue, just go out for a walk, play a game or even a movie you had wanted to see, but which would not interest your wife. Chances are that, she also might realize her mistake and when you come back things will be fine.
Sometimes playing good old, pacman moves your mind to something else.
Call up a good buddy and chat with him/her.
The other option is to buy a wireless headset for the TV and switch on the best program you need to see and watch it.
Conflict management is best resolved by breaking the dialogue for a while.
Shouting back, can be ugly and leaves you a bad feeling.
Now regarding your indivdual issues, it is all about space in a family. Point out some of her quirks, and say to her
how you tolerate it. This will atleast set her thinking about giving each other space.
Work out mechanisms, by which you can respect her and still do what you need. For example if you were living with a female room mate at school, would you drink Beer openly in front of her or eat Non-vegetarian openly in front of her (if she dislikes both).
Treat this condition as the same. I am sure you are intelligent enough to take the cue and work out something.
Good luck.
Sometimes playing good old, pacman moves your mind to something else.
Call up a good buddy and chat with him/her.
The other option is to buy a wireless headset for the TV and switch on the best program you need to see and watch it.
Conflict management is best resolved by breaking the dialogue for a while.
Shouting back, can be ugly and leaves you a bad feeling.
Now regarding your indivdual issues, it is all about space in a family. Point out some of her quirks, and say to her
how you tolerate it. This will atleast set her thinking about giving each other space.
Work out mechanisms, by which you can respect her and still do what you need. For example if you were living with a female room mate at school, would you drink Beer openly in front of her or eat Non-vegetarian openly in front of her (if she dislikes both).
Treat this condition as the same. I am sure you are intelligent enough to take the cue and work out something.
Good luck.
You grab her by the waist, and kiss her hard on the lips.
I love doing unpredictable, completely unexpected, behavior in random situations.
i wanted to suggest that at first go but would have been bombarded with questions in return?
Well...in all honesty and *rather personal* experience - I was away rubbing my wife's tummy... realizing its too late in the night...she might have agreed to have me my way....and my daughter cries and sits on the stairs to be carried in my arms to her bed........... to stay with her with her hand in my hand till she falls asleep again.
Long story short - Jatin, your life is more exciting after marriage, but literally over after kids.
Long story short - Jatin, your life is more exciting after marriage, but literally over after kids.
>>Walk out?
You would not be asking us... if you had the guts... you are not the type.
>> Tel her to shut the F*ck up
You would not dare to say that... that is why you did not say it and asking US here... The shrillness will increase like a siren.... so don't
>> Smack her?
Smacking is usually done spontaneously by short-tempered idiots who dont think. You are not the type... so Don't
>> Who do you handle this on going nagging?
Do what she wants immediately - if it is reasonable. If not tell right away... nothing doing and stick to it.
Nagging is the 3rd most important weapon in a woman's triad of Nuclear missiles.
Lemme guess.. married for 2 years ???
You would not be asking us... if you had the guts... you are not the type.
>> Tel her to shut the F*ck up
You would not dare to say that... that is why you did not say it and asking US here... The shrillness will increase like a siren.... so don't
>> Smack her?
Smacking is usually done spontaneously by short-tempered idiots who dont think. You are not the type... so Don't
>> Who do you handle this on going nagging?
Do what she wants immediately - if it is reasonable. If not tell right away... nothing doing and stick to it.
Nagging is the 3rd most important weapon in a woman's triad of Nuclear missiles.
Lemme guess.. married for 2 years ???
Baat guts ki nahi hain. It is about the bigger picture.
How do you know I am not the type?
Looks like you have been through this Sh*t. Does it get worse after 2 yrs?
How do you know I am not the type?
Looks like you have been through this Sh*t. Does it get worse after 2 yrs?
All married men do... boy.. that is called male conditioning...
Some are annealed, while some are nitrided and the rest are quenched...
First 2 years is establishment of territory and marking of power domains... years 3 to 5 , each recognizes their domain and what are critical trigger points and learn to avoid... but each tries to "convert" the other... 5 to 10... kids barge in and truce emerges and all fight converge on the kids... 10 to 15... kind of cruise along... dealing with other family and parental crises. 15 to 25 realizing you were doomed from the beginning only realizing it too late, 25 to 35 who cares and each does own thing and live in their own comfort zones.. after 35 fight about how children are not brinigng grandkids properly...
Welcome to the marriage for dummies...
Some are annealed, while some are nitrided and the rest are quenched...
First 2 years is establishment of territory and marking of power domains... years 3 to 5 , each recognizes their domain and what are critical trigger points and learn to avoid... but each tries to "convert" the other... 5 to 10... kids barge in and truce emerges and all fight converge on the kids... 10 to 15... kind of cruise along... dealing with other family and parental crises. 15 to 25 realizing you were doomed from the beginning only realizing it too late, 25 to 35 who cares and each does own thing and live in their own comfort zones.. after 35 fight about how children are not brinigng grandkids properly...
Welcome to the marriage for dummies...
enjoy