Virtual Friendships
started by Currer Bell 7 mnths agoReplies
Deja Vou..I had this concern once earlier and had made a similar post. In fact it was then that someone told me about a CH lady who died in India. What was odd though was that person never revealed her name, I mean her CH identity. Now why would someone do that? In what way was he/she protecting her privacy posthumously. I mean come on, whether we know the person by his/her real name or assumed name, we know these are real people and irrespective of any differences or friendships we would care for a human life, more so when we have interacted with the person. The least we would do would be to remember the person, mourn, pray for her soul.... I really thought the person who was supposedly protecting her privacy did not know what is privacy. People publish public obituaries for God sake!
Anyways, one thing is certain - friendships under assumed names could be as real or better than with real names IMO.
Hope all is well with you A
Even if you knew someone had died on CH all you are mourning for is a handle and the person you think that person might be. Unless you interacted with the people on the forum more personally then most of us could be anybody on the computer screen.
i guess you could say that you would miss the interactions with that handle but in truth you would not know the person to truly miss them.
There are many people who simply enjoy the fun of a forum where people only need to know things about you that you want them to know. You make the mistake that it is protecting ones privacy where as it is not it is simply being able to dictate what you want to put out there and frankly handles on a website feature far below people of flesh and blood for the purpose of letting people know about ones life events. For the most part besides having a handle attached the people behind the handles are as good as a bunch of strangers so you might feel a bad for them but you certainly would not mourn them or pray for their souls. Thats just melodramatic and overkill.
So we may not mourn mourn but certainly sympathise with the personalized fellow "handle". Unlike what Gowser says it is not totally depersonalized and we are not talking to HAL here. From that persepective, it is sad whoever died and who ever faces tragedy. A friend of mind died a couple of years ago. We had not seen him for years. he had almost become a "handle" on our IM. So I never deleted his ID and and do see that nick now and then, but then it never lights up.
To humanize a handle is not unusual or an overkill - if at all, it only adds a human touch.
All this can be said of the real world too. The real world is just another virtual world. Like in the matrix.
People die and passwords die with them. Wrote a wonderful story about this, but it is so close to heart, I had to withdraw it from being published.
T
What is friendship? "A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked."
Common, you do miss when one of you is missing for some days, you do inquire about them in whatever possible way, you feel something for them…hai na? So what is virtual in this? Nothing it is all very human. Enjoy.
Promilla
I know your eyes in the morning sun
I feel you touch me in the pouring rain
And the moment that you wander far from me
I wanna feel you in my arms again
And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love
Then you softly leave
And it's me you need to show
How deep is your love?
How deep is your love?
I really meant to learn
Cos we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down when they
All should let us be.
I believe in you
You know the door to my very soul
You're the light in my deepest, darkest hour
My savior when I fall
And you may not think I care for you
When you know down inside
That I really do
How deep is your love?
How deep is your love?
I really meant to learn
Cos we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down when they
All should let us be.
-Bee Gees
I hope you didn't think I was singing it for you. For one thing, I can not sing even if my life depended upon it.
tell tell..u just basically always wanted to tell her all this, did u not? 
Madame G, the title of the post tells you that the song/lyric is from Saturday Night Fever. I just posted it because I knew she likes romantic songs. It has nothing to do with my feelings (e-fondness--nothing more) for her.
Since we are talking about virtual friendship I was trying to make a point via a lyric that virtual friendships are not any more than 'feel good' internet interactions. Case in point: last week, I was on vacation having so much fun and virtually forgot all about CH!
Oh, because people here are so quick to jump to conclusions (wrong ones).
No, I had a real vacation--thank you. We went to a ski resort in Pa and stopped by Gettysburg along the way. It was nice to be away from PC and TV and be outdoors.
kajra re kajra re
tere kare kare naina
tere naina tere naina
hume daste hain tere naina
case in point : i just drank some coke and burped.
fag
So, according to you the Bee Gees must be fags for writing this song. Hmm....no wonder......
The rest...disappear without a trace...