Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse??
started by sophizz 5 mnths agoReplies
Ratan Datta posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoIt is not obligatory but can reinforce the relationship. It is just an opinion.
Ratan Datta
R-Sharma posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoBut if you cannot share everything wit your spouse, then it can be a marriage filled with doubt, suspicion and second guessing. I knew a lady who secretly checked on her husband's work emails to see if he was communicating with his mother, her MIL. She never told him, he never told her and so theirs was a marriage of mistrust all the way through!
I believe in openness in marriage and total news blackout in other relationships.
BladeRunner posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoby the way, the cat pic is funny. Does the cat also type random stuff?
R-Sharma posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoranjini
BladeRunner posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoYou can find a lot of these pics here -
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R-Sharma posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoYes, my cat types brainy stuff that look like Ramanujan's theorums! SOmething that looks like htis, and this is a saved txt file. 6307`hjhny94yuh7-=8ukjh8709
To answer your question, yes I not only give him all my passwords, I actually have to dictate to him by force since he is always forgetting them! I start by saying," My aunt's firstname with uppercase and.....". He always asks what her name is!!!! I do not care to know HIS work email because it's company policy and 'cause I simply do not care. An old lady once called me to sell newspapers and I inadvertantly uttered that I will ask my husband and let her know. I basically wanted her gone! She quickly said, 'My Dear! Don't you have any independence? Can't you decide independently?"
I quickly asked her if she was married. She said, "nope! I'm divorced!"
That explains!
The truth is, we discuss everything! Period!
Uppili posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoWhat do you do when there is mistrust or find out that your email is being checked ? remember... talking and dispelling the mistrust does not work. Once a trust is broken - it is gone...
Now what ?
RS-K posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
poetBittersweet posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
sophizz posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
wingco posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
Piththan posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoI completely agree with you. I might be a 1900 person. But i beleive in few concepts of marriage.
1. If a husband and his wife are independent totally, there is no meaening for their marriage.
2. If you want to hide something from your husband or wife, you yourself are accepting that you are doing something wrong.
3. If you have some wrong instances in the past, delete all the mails and give him/her your password details.
4. If you want to be an individual , why did you marry? There is a huge differewnce between the HOUSE and the HOME.
5. Nothing wrong in having different accounts, one can be maintained for your family needs and another for your future safety. But there is nothing wrong in sharing the PIN.
6. If you are not ready to share the PIN , you accept that you dont beleive him or her. What will be there in the marriage life, if each other do not trust on the other?
7. All the stuff must be shared and each other should have trust, sacrificing nature, adjustibele and understandable.
8. If you want to maintain the same relationship with your ex-boy or girl friend even after the marriage, there is nothing wrong........because, you would be the worst.
9. If you two do not beleive each other, why should your child beleive on you as his or her parents?
10. If he or she misuse the details you have provided , again i can say that both are not in love with each other. If you really love somebody, you can not do anything against them. You can, if you are living with him or her for the sake of something.
I strongly beleive that if you treat your husband or wife well, they ll respond the same. I beleive the power of love. Marriages should be made with love ( Don t confuse this with love marriage) and not for anyother need.
I tell all my passwords , account details and everything to my wife ( after i get married).
"If you start analysing people, you wont find time to love " - Mother terasa.
uLarum,
Piththan.
npan posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoin case of partner / lover - no ways does someone have to share all this. no need at all. one is entitled to their privacy
Job less fella posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
suppandi78 posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoYou dont have to share these things with anyone, however close the person may be.
Like someone said below "Do you open letters that are address to someone (say your partner) ?" Do you try to listen (overhear) your partners conversation over phone ? You dont then why should you share your passwords.
When I was working in a bank a senior executive who was also part of compliance division used to be questioned by many "can we share passwords. Whats wrong as long as its not misused ?" He used to reply to them "Do you share your toothbrush with your brother/say spouse?" Then the questioner get the answer which hits the nail on its head. This is what one should remember when you are dealing with passwords in email, bank a/c, etc.
But having said that in case of emergencies or for practical convenience we can share passwords but it has to be for genuine reason and for a short period. And it should be used for the right purpose, and once the purpose is accomplished the password has to be changed. Else you are in danger.
For instance you might share a password with your lover/spouse, but u shouldnt trust them 100%. Make sure that once the task is done you change passwords. Else you never know they might transfer all money to their accounts and run away putting you in deep trouble.
nidhana posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
Sawtanter posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
goodcritic posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
Archana-Sarat posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoWe have our own mobiles but it is not a taboo for us to use each others or answer each other's calls!
When there is true love and trust, all these things will not even strike you as important.... Archana Sarat
Uppili posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoSo there is some reason for not sharing it... that is why you dont share...
There is not a single wife or hubby ANYWHERE in this world at ANY TIME who has not kept secrets from their spouses.
Love or no love... is all bunch of crap... People hide secrets from their spouses, guess for what, to protect their spouses from agony - or so they claim when caught.
BladeRunner posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agowhat if you are planning a surprise for your husband/wife and he/she reads your email and finds out? so it is good to keep some things from each other.
Vivek posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoNO!!!
All my lovers have become passwords of my email addresses. Now why do you think I would share that with my wife. Bolo...
nidhana posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
Currer Bell posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoWith bank accounts, this should be shared and managed by both. The plm is that sometimes women feel they don't have income, let the husband take care of it, etc. Finances shouldn't be left to one person only (male or female).Then they both get screwed in the end if they have problems.
As for email passwords, it's one of those things that is good to keep separate and give a bit of room for privacy. For the guys on the board who are all about keeping things open and all, do you really want your wife to see the dirty pics your guy friends are sending? I recently met one friend who I know is the source of those nasty emails.. kinda skewed my first impression of him.
I have a lot of girlfriends who discuss private issues with me, and frankly, I don't want my hub to know their daily dramas. (I don't think he even cares!)
Job less fella posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
Uppili posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoSeems like an easy guess :)
Currer Bell posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago(I know what ur thinking, mister!)
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoWell you do not open up letters that are not addressed to you nor do you listen into the calls that your partner makes so why should you do the same with e-mails. Unless you get bills or things that people need to see in emergencies there is not really any need with e-mail accounts.
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoAbsolutely nothing as I do not know you or your mother - they say most women bad mouth their mother in law so assuming your wife does the same.
You are the only one who would actually know your wife to say whether this was true or not.
Given that you should know that I do not really know you why even care whether I have anything personal against your mother or not. I obviously do not know you well enough to have anything just playing along with the joke.
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago**ps..I do not ahve a wife**
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoneither have I ;)
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths agoif you had the minimum prerequisites to become a wife, we cud talk :)
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
aa posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
gowser posted Re:Should one share his/her email password, bank acocunt, mobile with partner/lover/spouse?? on 5 mnths ago
but only with beloved spouce, not with others at any cost.
Dhaneshwar