Dark skinned men and eve-teasing
started by sara Boji 3 mnths agoReplies
BittuZing posted Re:Dark skinned men and eve-teasing on 3 mnths ago- Reply
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i agree that low quality individuals can be found among darkies more easily than than white cultures which have had higher stanard of living for 2-3 hundred years and also some kind of city civilization, manners and acceptable way of behaving.
Many poor countries and many african countries were without education, civilization , slavery and rampant bandit like culture for few hundred years.
The behavior of folks is not not the same every where, whites have behaved extremely badly in Asia and Africa but are constrained to behave properly when in their own country.
Any race or individual, theoretically can behave like a low life specimen if conditions are right but the facts are in 2008, it is mostly darkies which tend to misbehave in their own countries and outside their own countries. This may not be due to race, but it will be mighty stupid to get mugged by not taking precautions when factual information is available about the behavior of population constituents.
No offense, but you have this race -obsession thing going, judging from various other posts you have made here. Will a white man do that? Will a black man do this? yada, yada, yada.. The reality is there is a high degree of variation between individuals in their behavioral characteristics and in broad terms, so much overlap between ethnic groups that these "hypotheses" are meaningless.
The point that "white men" / Europeans don't "eve-tease" their women is patently absurd- Ever hear of bottom-pinching women experience on Italian trains? Now, let me hasten to add that all men are bottom-pinchers.
A world-view that insists on seeing humans along racial stereotypes strips individuals of their uniqueness; more importantly, it is shallow to the point where it leaves the holder of the views highly limited in terms of being able to navigate a muticultural society.
A real life story from friends in Bengaluru.
A college girl walks to buy sanitary stuff. Group of regular boys asking her.. 'Yaake Medam.. Namage bread ilwa?' (Why Madam.. No bread for us?)
The girl quipped.. ' Mooru divasa bittu baa.. jaam jote kodteeni' (Come after 3 days, you will get with jam)
Supposedly, that girl never got teased by that group of boys again..
Let me leave the story alone:)
But, I was watching the tamil serial "Kolangal" last night (which is a mainstream program)...was struck by the dialogue/language used by women characters- who spoke about rape very casually...even joking about it! The whole tone...seems to have changed in the past few years!
*It also kind of reminded me about the "Vagina Monologues" which were created to demystify women's biology...I suppose there are positive and negative aspects to the this approach...and I am not a big fan of this approach....but, kind of wondered..where Indian pop culture going with this! I wonder how younger Indian men and women percieve male-female dynamics.
M
well i wonder what will happen if they bring the vagina monologues to india. have u seen it? i saw it on broadway and was very impressed and saddened by it, all at the same time.
The Vagina Monologues...have already been staged in Bombay, but was opposed in Madras.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/south_asia/3501034.stm
*I have heard a lot about it....was/am not interested in watching it..as I said...I am not a big fan of this demystifying approach.
M
I am one of those would never use the term 'rape' in a casual conversation. It's criminal to be insensitive to such a horrendous crime by using it casually.
Unless.. you are hearing a Telugu song which says 'rapu kaavala' (I have heard it .. really with a girl singing it)!
>> It's criminal to be insensitive to such a horrendous crime by using it casually.
I personally believe this is another example of political correctness run amuck. Rape is a form of violence against another individual and to that extent is a crime as good or as bad as any other assault. And yet, we're so cowed down by the fear of appearing insensitive that that we happily go along with ludicrous notions such as - rape delivers a fate worse than death because it kills the soul and suchlike.
Agree....there is nothing amusing about it.
Unless.. you are hearing a Telugu song which says 'rapu kaavala' (I have heard it .. really with a girl singing it)!
There are some really risque tamil songs too....(subtle erotica is one thing...plain vulgar is what most are).
I am afraid to ask....What 'kaavala' mean?
M
don't you watch TV? Did you not catch the TV ads where men oogle and whistle at females walking by? Are they all black men?
One question? Do you really think before you write or are you tutoring under Dinesh DeSouza?
May be these questions are a result of your boot (replace with a..) licking of FF?
i am appalled by the fact that in this day and age such questions are still being raised. Instead of giving counter examples which Maria, QB et. al have done so effectively (thank you so much!) let me try and address this issue from another direction. What is the reason that we even start thinking on such lines? Is it something innate or is it because of our environment that causes one to nurture and rationalize such absurd and of course unscientific concepts? The environment is a big culprit of course. Hitler's propaganda chief Goebbels firmly believed that a lie if told a hundred times becomes the truth. Personally I have a hard time believing that we are living in such an environment today however the mechanism of bias transmission is much more subtle ( and therefore devious!). The only way to fight it is to take your "education" medication daily!
You need to get out more before you come up with these conclusions
On this board, and any other board, you always wanna project yourself as a hottie. With a nobody-harasses-me comment, you begin to paint a different picture of yourself. A picture that most hetero men don't desire.
I really have never been harassed! People have always been polite to me. I really don't allow such situations to arise.
a) ya-haan of course nobody harasses you, Miss Bodybuilder.
or i'll be like
b) no way. With that much bodaciousness factor, you should be harassed on a daily basis. You're just lucky, lucky, lucky. So far.
If you don't wanna send pix coz of privacy issues, I understand. There's always webcam after 11pm tonight...
xoxo, Bittu
This might be true. See that in NYC too. But seen other Europen guys saying 'Ooo La la' also. Desi guys simply stare.
Ok. In college days, these two eve teasing comments actually made me laugh later (no I never laughed infront of a group of guys. Something to do with hansi-ki-fansi logic).
1. Was walking by the college main road. Some guys were standng. A guy said 'BEAUTIFUL'. I pretended not to hear. The other guy asked, 'what?'. He says, 'THE SHOES YAAR'. I was wearing new shoes that day.
2. I was tired and sick one afternoon, and walking around the campus with dragging feet. 'Chamatkar' was released recently. A guy sings, 'Arre ise to malaria hua'.
seriously speaking, is it too late for me to seek counselling now to get over my mom's death after 9 years? nah, u don't have to answer.
I suppose you are talking about metro stations in MD and DC. I would be surprised to see something like that in N.Va.
If the metro police 'rough up' these low lives, they will stop. Of course, the black folks will be screaming racism if that happens.
While the white guys do not usually engage in such activities, the white construction workers type have been known to harrass women walking by the const. sites.
Are non-white men more likely to engage in 'eveteasing'?
I think so.
Seriously...I would think people (men) behave badly- eve-tease/harass women..more in certain environments/company they are in- when there is a "mob mentality". Eve teasing is not so uncommon in places like Ireland, Scotland...even Russia (and many of the old Soviet Union countries)...In the US it occurs..in certain urban public areas/bars/Univ fraternity houses.
Women in groups in certain environments- bars/ parties seem to tease a man quite vigorously- if he is "caught" alone.
M
Oh...I forgot to add...eve-teasing/harassment/or worse...happens with men who serve in the Armies/Armed forces around the world...
*Stories about American soldiers...engaging in the worst kind of eve-teasing be it in Vietnam, Iraq and (against their fellow American women soldiers) are well documented.
M
*Stories about American soldiers...engaging in the worst kind of eve-teasing be it in Vietnam, Iraq and (against their fellow American women soldiers) are well documented."
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You have got a point here. The american soldiers (a small percentage of them) have done more than just eve-teasing here at military facilities as well as overseas (Iraq, Japan, Philippines, Viet...etc.). Yes, there have been cases of rapes and rapes+murders.
I still think eve-teasing is much more prevalent in India, Pak, and Bangladesh. If you talk to your friends & relatives in India, they will tell you that it's a big problem in buses, trains and schools. The eve-teasers (cowards) usually stand/sit in groups, at isolated places and do their barbaric acts. There was little or no eve-teasing in my home town because the eve-teasers were getting severely punished by the victims relatives. The civilized people should take back the streets from the uncivilized.
