11 yrs later... Q for guys only
started by Sirf Paisa 6 mnths agoReplies
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Thats a girl talking abt having a crush on a guy.
So no fudge to munch
Just ice cream cones post lunch..
I never understood "infactuation"
I called it love.
what do u think it was? - love or infactuation?
(I had crush on few guys - but I never went out with them - I never told them I liked them or anything).
This guy was the only one I thought I loved. He was the only guy I thought of until - help arrived here :)
and you are right about it. don't give a damn what others define what you felt and went through. only you know what it did to your mind, body and soul. that's what matters the most.
Oh please... love? I suggest you avoid very pretty girls because they will whip your soul*
Man will get what its coming to them
Note: Women will be separated from their spouse and the camps will be filled with man ONLY so start by becoming "homies"
Also we should all be allowed to have an affair with anyone anytime. Monogomy is overrated.
removing social, ethical, and moral restrictions on extra-marital affairs will not make them any easier.
so, they will continue to be painful to deal with.
Is that love or infactuation?
11 yrs ago - I was hanging out with my girl friends who had boyfriends - I never had a "boyfriend".
RS-K keeps her man on a tight leash chained to the bed..
She takes him out twice a day...
SBS-tongue-firmly-in-cheek
u did not say that. typist babu.. your time is up.
sirf paisa.. forget my questions.. sometimes I get into the interrogation mode.
Stay away from this guy. Habits die hard. Sometimes, the chemistry between two people never change. Full chances are, if you meet at all, he will still dominate you and you will be all too happy to oblige one last time.
HTH
Life is a perfect circle "little nymph" a friend said to me*
No matter how much she loves you she will never forgive you all the s*it you put her threw
Pain is as powerful as love I think more* so then comes rage and revenge and well sometimes "Very bad things"
But that is if you do not let that go...
If she was able to find GOD you are safe*
LET HIM GO "a**holes" are meant to be left alone*
I did not know just talking about the situation and getting some help from others could work wonders. My heart feels much lighter now.
I think it's Mission Accomplished!!
Plus: Just reading my OWN stuff on this discussion board about this guy - disgusts me. I should have writted this in a personal diary long time ago - just to see how it reflects back and how bad it sounds.
Tell you something if I am alive within 11 years from this day today I will thank my anger and my hatred for these type of guys trust me "do not trust anyone"
this is what my favourite poet/philosopher rainer maria rilke said about love:
we need, in love, to practice only this:
letting each other go. for holding on
comes easily; we don't need to learn it.
from your words above it is clear that you did exactly that. and this is the reason
you still have that longing. god bless you!!
and if you ever bump into him, don't worry, he will behave
exactly the same way as before. because guys like him don't take anything personal.
just like a performer, he will use the same old jargon to you and may even fake an
audio-verbal orgasm on the spot, unless someone else's presence (like his wife)
prevents it for socio-political reasons. you know what i mean, like he will talk as if he
was dying to see you.
i kind of guessed that you are the exact opposite of what your handle reveals. now i know
it for sure :)
She has a feeling she will bump into that guy at some occasion - what do you think the guy will do and how will he react with her?
She is weak at heart and one smile will blow off all the anger obsessed over the years.
Has she really moved on? If she had moved on , she won't be making this post and writing that 'one smile will blow off all the anger obsessed over the years'. What anger? Why the obsession? No, the girl has not moved on yet and is still harbouring the feeling for that guy...I would say, let the feelings out for once and all. Just do it, for old-times sake! Otoh, the guy might have really moved on and may not even recognize you or feign ignorance, if he did recognize you..you know, depends on who is his date that evening!
CTC ( Cut the crap) and Move on, really!
2nd---Just forget a meeting even in your dreams and live the sweet memories forever. Enjoy the feeling that you loved someone in spite of his being so ruthless. Everything seems so good and lovely when we are young but if you revisit it may not be the same. You intend to see some ugliness with your experienced eyes and repent life long that you loved a man who wasn’t worth a dime.
The truth is I never spoke about my feeling / anger / frustration about this issue to anyone. I never really let it out. I kept it to myself because I knew what was happening was nothing to be proud of. I knew that I did not want the life I was living at that time and I wanted out.
My heart was weak but my head was strong. Strong enough to shut that part of my life and start a new and fresh beginning.
I did just that! I am glad.
Today I am blessed with a family and so much love I could never have even imagined if I was with that guy.
Sometimes we just don't have anyone to talk to or in my case - he was simply not worth mentioning to anyone.
Sometimes I feel so grateful to this .com generation that I can still be annonymus and get help - from Friends like you. I have been a faithful sulekha blog reader - and in that I learned many things from others experience. I was able to understand that life is such and it is up to US to make the best of it.
A salute to sulekha contributors!!!!!!
Good that you took it out, now it won't hurt because now you know what you did was a right decision.
Now a warm hug for you from my side and wish u all the happiness in your life.
>>>>>"Whatever the temptation maybe, you will not re-cultivate your friendship"
This is what Kris said last night.
I thought about it and I slept VERY well last night.
That is the answer to my question - not to re-cultivate friendship. Now even if his ghost appears in my dreams - he will be IGNORED. Don't wanna be friends with that either. :-)
I needed this hammered on my heart long time ago.